How does love works?
First and foremost, nothing comes easy in life. From the moment we were born, it's not easy for our mothers and it is not easy for us as the baby. Then comes the growing part, it is never easy. Why? Because we experience new emotions, new things and we adapt to it, we complement ourselves to our conditions, we learn new things, we learn to give and take and in the process we finally learn that we actually love our parents, our brothers and sisters and our friends. We learn to interact with people and our environments (e.g. trees, parks, nature, the poor, the beggars, animals, pets...). Nothing is perfect. Even ourselves are not perfect. So why leave a girl or a guy just because there are no more sparks? (a situation of imperfection). I think it's all because they do not understand the reality of this world and this life.
Here are the phases that we will go through in our lives:
Couples will fall in love.
Couples will fall out of love. (no more fantasy feelings)
Couples will discover some ugly truths (e.g. their partner never brush their teeth)
Couples give and take, and learn to complement each other's weakness.
Couples get married.
Couples are never perfect and again it is not easy.
Couples again forgive and complement and strive to make things better because they are commited to the relationship.
Couples have kids and live happily ever after.... (with all the struggle and communication and a little fights here and there but with lots of reconciliation...)
That's how things are...
Well, then there are those who just cannot let go of the "fantasy phase" of courtship and that's where you find mistresses, guys cheating on girls, girls cheating on guys.... and all nonsense will happen all because people tend to believe that things are meant to be easy.
In the end....... whether we like it or not.....
Life is never easy.
(we have to adapt, we have to change and it is ours to make things happen.)
and no, aku bukan cold-feet ke ape, saje post an interesting article B)
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